Slammed
I’ve been pretty swamped these last few days but being busy is a good thing.
I have about 7 voicemails that are just sitting in the memory of my cell phone that I need to call back but and every time I think “I need to call this person back” I get distracted like a cat watching and chasing around an unreachable beam from a flashlight. I never catch the beam but meanwhile, days have gone by and now it’s been so long since the messages came in…I’m a little embarrassed to call at all.
This happens a little TOO MUCH with Emails as well. I’m sure I’m not the only one. I have some emails from people that I haven’t made the time to write back “properly” to and I’m sure they must be thinking I’m ignoring them…NOT the case… but I must say, I’m getting tired of starting my emails with “Hey _______, I’m so sorry I haven’t been back in touch sooner…” [Something I need to work on perhaps]
A few days back, I discovered the danger of not returning an email from someone (even though I’m pretty sure I DID email back). This person emailed me a little note preaching the gospel of “friendship” and how I somehow broke the Ten Commandments of email etiquette. JEEEZE.. Hang me to a cross already! I wont go into this story too much but it didn’t end pretty.
Most of my friends back in Michigan are very understanding. They know that I have a life here just as they do there. I really do try to keep in touch as much as I can though. Perhaps the saying “out of sight, out of mind” is a little true but with that being said…I have some really good friends that I don’t talk to after a few months have gone by but when we do talk, it’s as if no time has gone by at all. That’s refreshing.
After moving away, I did notice that I was mainly the friend who always called everyone (which I didn’t mind)…I learned this by trying an experiment of not calling to see how long it would be before a call came back my way. Let’s just say I waited quite a LONG time. I wasn’t upset or anything (I’m not that “high maintenance” of a friend) but when they did call, they said something like “Why haven’t you been in touch?”… Um TELEPHONES work both ways but I didn’t say that.
Anyway…I’m not even sure what point I’m trying to get across here.
I did think by blogging, it would be a way for friends back home to check on me and see how things are going but that backfired a little. What happened with some people is they thought I was being too impersonal or something. Not what I intended… however, the upside is that I’ve made some new online friends and readers that I’m very thankful for ![]()

It must be going around. I had the same thing happen to me just yesterday. Someone thought I wasn’t giving them enough attention. You don’t need those kind of people in your life
Maybe it’s the weather
hotter than Africa in Indiana the past few days.. i hear it’s HOT in LA too…
and ditto what everyone else is saying about emails too.. usually my pet peeve is ppl who don’t return emails, then i realized that i was so busy that i was one of the ones who wasn’t returning emails too… so i was my own best pet peeve…
does that make sense? i’ll worry about you if it does. lol
I used to get a little ticked when someone didn’t return an email but then i realized not everyone spends their life online… would you believe that i have some friend who don’t even have computers???? how crazy is that!
no computers??!?!!! whoa…. scary! weird, wild, wacky stuff.
this made me think …..
um, do i owe you any emails?
not that i’m aware …besides..a blog comment works just as dandy as an email
ok, i’ll buy that! … =)
WOW feeling the same thing here!!! The pressure gets so bad sometimes !! I always think I want to call when it is quite and no kids, work but heck when in the hell is that!!! So time flies by………..anyway! I think we all feel the same True Friends understand!!! So hang in there TRUE FRIEND!! It is called LIFE…
yeah..you moved away from Michigan too so you know what’s it’s like. I’d say 95% of my friends back home are very understanding but that 5% are pretty whinny and needy. Ah well.. life goes on
:mrgreen:Some of your friends in Michigan understand, he he…. Been there done that. I just moved home. Keep doing what your doing. I like your blog it keeps me informed the other half J-9 does. Hope you had a great B-day and can’t wait to see when do come to Michigan (your second home).
hehehe..you know i miss you guys very much!

CAN’T WAIT TO SEE YOU in Sept!!!
I appreciate this blog very much as I am the sort of person who takes a good 12 years just to write a letter! Understanding is the key!
you’re one of those people who i feel i can not see for 12 years and still pick right back up with right where we left off….sometimes I’m amazed that I’ve known you since 1st grade..that’s CRAZY-COOL!
Yeah, I have the same problem. My best friend never calls me–I’m always the one making the effort. What’s annoying about that is that she uses it as an excuse when something doesn’t go right. Like last night I called and asked her what was up, and she gave me the rundown and I said something about dinner, and she pulls up and has dinner for herself. I was sort of asking her to have dinner with me, but she didn’t bother to call and then said, Well, you didn’t call me today. Oh.
Friends actually suck when you have any level of expectations from them. I guess the ones worth having are the ones that make the same level of effort for you as you do for them.
Oh, and as much as “out of sight, out of mind” is true, think of it as “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Sometimes it’s just that silver lining that gets ya by.
Hugs!:wink:
“absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
I agree….i haven’t been back home in 2 years and the longer it’s been the more I can’t wait to see everyone again (well, everyone but the 1 person who threw a fit that i didn’t email back soon enough–just silly)
Humph . . no Wisconsin trip??? Never email me again!
Teasing!
LOL…well maybe i’ll have to stop on the way
Travel tease . . .