When the benefit of the doubt no longer has doubt.
I hope everyone had a nice Easter. My weekend was just "Ok"…i did get some work done so that’s always a good thing.
My GOOD FRIDAY was not a very GOOD one though. I was really let down by someone who I considered a friend so much so that I ended the friendship. That’s never fun but I guess it’s all part of life.
My problem is, I’m the type of person who usually lets things bottle up and build up until the glass cracks. At the time of things that are happening, I usually don’t say anything which I’ve learned is BAD. My reasons for not saying anything at the time are usually because most of the time, little things that are said and done to me are usually not worth causing a fuss over but what happens is when shit piles up …THEN, suddenly I think of everything that happened over the years and compile them into one explosive list. That line about the Straw and Breaking the Camel’s Back came this Friday night.
And so…I blame myself for letting this person walk all over me over the last year or so. The good news is, I’ve put an end to that.
So what caused all this? It all started with money I was promised for work I did and did not receive full payment(due to the person just not having the money at the time). The amount due was only $2,000.00… Flash forward a year and this person asks me to do more work but still hasn’t paid me the $2,000.00.
Okay…so I’m not stupid enough to say "yes" because I don’t want the money owed to turn into more money owed…but what I do is refer this person to someone else to do the rest of the work. Strangely, this person I referred them to has no trouble being paid for the work they did. So I’m annoyed but still not to the point of blowing off the friendship. And so, a few months down the road the work is completed and I’m sent the finished product WITHOUT being given proper credit and the only credit given is by the person i referred them to. [I'm being vague as to what the project is because even still, I'm not out to blog-bash this person...not sure why I should care about that when they didn't seem to care about fucking me over.]
And so… I got very angry when I saw I was not given credit where it was supposed to be and released everything I was feeling and thinking in an email on Friday terminating our friendship. There’s more to the story and other reasons I’ve been upset over this but the above is the main beef.
I don’t want to believe this person would do all this intentionally to me….I just think they were completely oblivious to what I would feel about it. Perhaps they just got caught up in the moment of getting the project done and was excited about it and just forgot?
And so…after sending my angry email, I get a voice message from them stuttering over everything they were saying. What would have been nice to hear was "Bob, I’m REALLY sorry about all this, let me fix it and make things right" but this was never said. So now??? I want the money that’s owed to me along with proper credit.
I just started working with a manager who’s been doing a fantastic job so far and she said she’s going to be in contact with this person to try and fix this. She might be able to fix the credit and money owed but I feel pretty let down by the way things unfolded.
That, my friend, is the nature of this business. You should know by now that this town is LOADED with walking and talking TURDS! You really have to have a tough skin (or lots of Glade Air Freshner.) I know the person you’re referring to and have never liked this person from the moment we met. In fact, I have had direct business dealings with some of these people you are referring to and would love to see them thrown off the Hollywood Sign. But revenge is sweet and remember when your time comes, never forget what these people have done to you. I know you’re not the asshole vindictive type but I am and will be there for my own personal vendetta. A simple snub can devastate their ego.
*Glade Freshner* LOL
THAT is funny.
I’ve liked this person and was always happy to help and would have helped more if i wasn’t screwed over,…i guess that’s why it was such a let down.
I feel like the one who was snubbed.
“I feel like the one who was snubbed.” Oh please! Being snubbed by a TURD isn’t a bad thing. I’d flush the toilet so fast it’s snubbing days would be out to sea in less than an hour.
it’s never fun to be snubbed no matter who it is…even if it wasn’t intentional(which part of me is starting to wonder if it was now).
I’m sorry Bob for what your going through. I’ve learned the hard way that there are very few people in your life that you can really call friend. Most people haven’t got a clue to what that word means. I hope things will work out the way you want them & next American Idol I better see your tail on there.:lol::wink:
Thanks Brigitte
It’s just a shame it came to this. Friends + Money = SHIT
As for A.I. …perhaps someday (if they raise the age limit) [shhhh]
Bob, I just went looking at your photos & seen a picture of you & one of my favorite actors of all time, Sidney Poitier! I’m so jealous!
I was really happy to meet Sidney! He’s really tall and was very nice to me …we didn’t talk too much but he was nice enough to let me get a photo with him …I feel honored
I would be totally pist off too. I know the whole story and it’s not right for people to take advantage of people. That, what that person did. It just pisses me off that someone took advantage of a “Good Person”. I know, I get so sick and tired of people walking over me cause I’m so nice and let shit go. BUT ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Do what you have to do. They will get theirs!
It just would have been nice to hear *”hey, i really didn’t know your felt that way and let me try to fix all this”*…that’s what I would do. I know no one is perfect but if i hurt a friend not knowing i did, i’d certainly do everything I could to fix the problem. I guess I’m expecting too much.
Too bad you’re not out here! I’ve seen you in action! Not a pretty sight after you’re done with them. “Texas Chainsaw Renaye”
You know you’re a Nice Guy when clueless, thoughtless, stupid, irresponsible people make YOU feel like the Bad Guy for pointing out that they are clueless, thoughtless, stupid and irresponsible.
You have a good point there Mike.
If anything, I feel badly for being brought to the point of having to send an email like i did.
Hey, well, your blog title would make an interesting ablumn name. Sorry to hear about that. I know what it’s like to let things slide and then when things get to the point of no return, its like Beruit on steroids. I hope this person will see the work you’ve put in for them and empathize with your side of things and give you the deserved credit. It’s not as if you are asking for their right arm. Ruf
*I hope this person will see the work you’ve put in for them and empathize with your side of things and give you the deserved credit. It’s not as if you are asking for their right arm.*
me too…i’m not sure which is worse, not being properly credited, or not being paid…both suck though
God, who would do such an awful thing to such a lovely guy like you. I hate them already for you.
hmm…this added sympathy bonus is sort of nice ( i must admit) but i was just venting without going into too much detail. thanks for the comment ..hug!
whoa… Bob, sorry to hear that…. one thing i’ve learned in my (almost) 47 years on this earth is that friends and money just don’t mix. I’ve lost 2 friendships because I loaned them money during a hard time in their life, and I never saw it again…
I think it’s part of the dark side of human nature? No matter how hard we try not to, there’s always going to be some bad eggs in our lives… -sigh- hang in there. –John
I had pretty much written off ever seeing a dime …money was not worth losing a friend over…it was the other stuff that threw me over the edge though.
Thanks for the comment
You know what it’s just a week to be annoyed. Heck I’ve been there with work and friends and family for about a week now!
I’m feeling your pain
sending hugs!
Sorry to hear you had such a Crummy easter Bob. Sadly as few others have noted, money and friends quite often don’t mix. To look on the bright side every experience (good or bad) shapes who we are, and lessons can be learnt. I think you are too nice for revenge……I’d let Val sort them out!
yeah…that whole “$ + Friends = YUCK” thing is true.
the sad this is we started out as a work thing and became friends after…of course…it also caused the friendship to end
I’ll never understand why people don’t realize that “I’m sorry” goes a looooooong way. Maybe the debt owed had slipped the person’s mind (which is no excuse, but shit happens, y’know?)…but a simple apology and attempt to fix the problem works WONDERS with me.
Sorry you’ve had a shit sandwich of a day.
*hugs & smooches*
this person *did* say they were sorry…but it was more like “i’m sorry you’re upset”..not “i’m sorry, let’s see how we can fix this”
sending hugs!
I think it was a bad week for cancers. Let’s go burn some incense….or something
i figure i still have my health so any day i wake up is a good one no matter what card gets dealt my way
Howzabout we play Blackjack next time instead of “Go Fish”
Maybe Monopoly… but you should know I’m always the top hat… You seem like a race car kinda guy.
A friend once told me, “Cathe, it’s only the people you really care about that can hurt you.” That’s so true, I can always shrug off stuff from idiots I don’t know. Its a good idea to let your manager handle everything if you find one you can trust. That way you can always tell your friends, man yourl have to run that by my manager, I don’t handle any money.
yeah, i guess if i didn’t care about the friendship, then it would be no big deal.
*Its a good idea to let your manager handle everything if you find one you can trust*
say…how much money did my manager pay you to say this?
just kidding
I agree with ya for sure
I WISH! I only know that cause I stink at handleing money. (except for finding deals!) My husband is my manager, when we have any money to manage. With 7 kids and a mom to care for it don’t go far.
i can just imagine how hard it would be to manage with 7 kids…we had 2.5 in our family and that seemed pretty tough….but 7? that would take some work
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